Anonymous asked: I'm a freshmen and I feel like I am in the dumps. My grades are okay despite working as hard as I can, but worse, I don't feel like I have close friends. How long did it take for you to meet/make your best friends? I am in clubs, am social but still it is not going perfectly. I'm normal so its not like I'm socially awkward, I just don't know...
can’t really speak for any other mods, but i really came into my own as a student/presence on campus after i left max p and moved to stony island.
i met some of my best friends (to this day) because of that move. probably the smartest thing i did, apart from going abroad and stuff
Adding a few thoughts here… “It is not going perfectly.” Were you really expecting perfect?!
First year blues are totally common/normal/to be expected. It took me at least a year to really hit my stride in my extracurriculars, classes, etc. I know I felt like I wasn’t happy here socially for at least the first two months, because I was used to this small, super tight-knit group of friends in high school… But, surprise, college isn’t like in high school where people clique up and stay that way forever and ever, the end. I’m still definitely growing and changing my friend circle, and I’m a third year! :)
If that isn’t good enough advice for you, here’s a few homework assignments:
- Celebrate the Last Day of Class by getting dollar shakes at C-Shop with friends you haven’t hung out with recently
- Invite a friend or two to the Smart Museum or Oriental Institute study nights to be your study buddies
- Email an upperclassman that inspires you; invite them to coffee, bask in their wisdom